Today was the roughest day I’ve had in a while. It wouldn’t have been such a big deal except for the fact that it was the roughest day kiddo has had in a while too.
I got a text from the Ex this morning asking if she could see kiddo today. She keeps doing this thing where she asks to see kiddo and has me drive up to town to meet her halfway, and then she never knows what to so they fart around for an hour or two and then she wants to meet up again. So this morning I said sure, she could see kiddo, but she should come down to my house to get her.
She came down around noon and, as usual, was complaining about not knowing what to do with kiddo. She tried to lean on me a couple times, which I felt was uncalled for. She complained about the fact that nobody hit on her at the club she visited last night. She launched a few volleys on her way out the door…asking me to feed her dinner and some other bullshit like that.
I did my laundry, and while I was at the laundromat the Ex texted me and said that they were bored and had done everything there was to do. I said she could drop kiddo back off at the laundromat. She did. We ended up getting into a heated argument and she said that she wanted kiddo to live with her for a while, which I said was a knee jerk reaction and that if there was going to be a major life change it should be discussed and planned out properly. She disagreed and we parted ways in a huff.
I took kiddo home and Christina was there waiting for us…our little argument at the laundromat meant that I got home later than planned. We hung out, ate some lunch, and kiddo went to her friend’s house to play. Christina and I were relaxing when there was a knock on the door. It was the Ex. She said she was there to pick up kiddo’s things so she could go to live with her. I was blindsided. I said I wasn’t comfortable with that decision being made in haste. The Ex wouldn’t back down, started insulting me, starting bullying me. I held my ground. She went back to her car and apparently her roommate/boyfriend/whatever was in there, and he came storming out all fired up and yelling at me. So I had the two of them in my face. The Ex’s guy got close enough to me that our chests touched. He threatened me and the Ex had to pull him away. I told them they weren’t welcome in my home and that they needed to leave. I called kiddo and told her she needed to come home right away, because I didn’t want the Ex going over to her friend’s house and taking her. I tried to close my door but the Ex just stuck her foot in it. So I called the police.
A couple minutes before the police arrived, kiddo got home and before I could do anything she was in their car and they were driving away. It was horrible. Christina had come out when things got raucous and we were both flabbergasted. And then, thank God, I happened to look outside and the police arrived and they had caught the Ex as she was trying to leave. Four officers were there. It was great. They came down and talked to me…we told them what happened…they said that because there was no custody agreement, there was nothing they could do to stop the Ex from taking kiddo and I said that was okay, I just had been afraid that things were getting too heated and that I had been harassed. I told the officers that her mom could leave and I thought that was the end.
A minute later I hear kiddo’s voice outside the door. I open the door and an officer is standing there with her, and kiddo is crying and she says that she wanted to hug me goodbye. I let her in, apologized to her for things getting to crazy…she said she didn’t want to go, that she just wanted to go to her friend’s house. I said it was okay. I asked her if she was sure that she didn’t want to go with her mom and she said she was sure. I went back outside and talked to the Ex and her guy, and I told them that kiddo didn’t want to go. They were pissed. The Ex moved toward me and an officer held her back and warned her not to come toward me. It was ludicrous. I was embarrassed to be involved in such a situation. I told them that kiddo didn’t want to go and that she wanted her visits with her mother to be scheduled ahead of time, and then I just walked away.
The officers were finally able to leave and poor kiddo sat with Christina and I and we all tried to calm down. It was horrible. The Ex has been texting me since then, acting all apologetic but I don’t trust her anymore. She did something too ridiculous to forget. Tomorrow I am doing what I should have done a long time ago and getting the divorce paperwork and custody paperwork in order, it can’t go on like this anymore. I’m not sure that 50/50 is even a good idea at this point. Her mom is just too unsteady. She reacts too severely. She’s just not with it. It makes me sad.
I feel terrible that everyone had to go through that. Kiddo shouldn’t feel torn, but I guess this is how it always turns out. Christina shouldn’t have to be involved in all of that…the Ex called her a bitch in front of kiddo, how inappropriate is that? Christina has done nothing wrong. And yet Christina still wants to be with me. She is a special girl. I think I love her.